Have you experienced a particularly rough spell in your life? Do you feel as though you’re desperate to get your life back on track but don’t know how? Is what happened potentially destroying you?
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Life isn’t always a bed of roses. As much as we would love it to be, unfortunately, not everything is perfect all of the time for your average person.
At some point in your life, if not already you will have faced a tough or challenging situation where perhaps you have felt like the world is against you and life just isn’t fair.
If this sounds familiar to you, then I invite you to reflect and open yourself up to these 7 key ways to pick yourself back up from life’s obstacles and transform yourself into the happier version of you again.
1. Surround Yourself With Positive People
You know that time is precious right? So spend it with people who make you smile and who are positive. This could be your friends, work colleagues, or maybe even someone you don’t know that well.
This world is full of whingers and moaners and when you are going through tough times, the last thing you need is to be spending your time with people that bring you down and put you into a deeper state of sadness. You know who those people are!
2. Separate Your Situation Of Personal Anger With The Entire World
Do you feel that you are fuming with anger at the entire world? Whatever has happened to you will no doubt involve specific factors. Perhaps people have let you down? Perhaps you’ve lost someone you cared about? Maybe someone deceived you?
Either way this does not mean that every other human being on the planet is terrible and can’t be trusted. This does not mean that the whole world is a horrific place. Take some time to try to put things into perspective. Don’t be stereotypical and don’t judge others because of what you have experienced.
In order to separate this, try to remember:
- There is still some goodness in the world. There is a lot of positivity and good things going on around us that happen everyday. Try not to forget that just because you’re feeling low.
- It’s unfair to blame others and stereotype. People may have let you down, but it’s unfair to judge other people and blame them too. Each person is different and you need to respect that.
- You have to trust people eventually. Not everyone will let you down. You have got to trust some people. Even if it’s a couple of people that are close to you and you can rely on.
- It will help you to find closure and move on. Spending the rest of your life hating the world will only make you bitter. In order to find closure you need to find acceptance.
3. Find Positive Things To Look Forward To
Do you have anything exciting coming up in the months ahead? A relaxing holiday, some family time, or a night out with friends could be just what you need. Be it small or large, if you have things to look forward to, not only will you relax and have some much needed fun, but you will also actually find this to be a welcome distraction from what may be going on in your life that has been getting you down.
4. Don’t Hide From Your Problems
Shutting yourself away and hiding from what has happened is very common. Don’t run away from your problems, face them. You won’t gain anything from being down in the dumps or sulking for days on end. All you will do is send yourself into a deeper state of depression which will eventually be even harder to get out of.
Try these things to get you out of that mode of depression:
- Take a walk and get some fresh air. Sometimes, leaving the house and getting a little bit of fresh air can help you clear your mind. Try it.
- Speak to friends and family for support. Don’t forget the people that are there for you. Confide in them if you can and allow them to help and advise you where possible.
- Take small steps each day and actively do more. You can’t shut yourself away indoors from reality forever. Take small steps and do more positive things that get you out of the house.
- Look after your health. Despite how you might be feeling it is really important to eat well and drink plenty. Whatever may have happened, be sure to not let your health suffer.
5. Seek Professional Help
Are you desperate for someone to understand what you’re going through and help? Perhaps you’ve never done this before, but actually seeing a therapist and getting some professional counselling might be something that you actually need to consider.
A therapist can help and advise you on how to address your problems and teach you some coping skills to help you get through it. Although it’s a huge benefit to have family and friends around you, professional advice may be just what you need in order to move forward.
There are also plenty of self-help books and materials on the internet, that you can have a look at. For example. here is a free toolkit that can help you manifest a better life by using The Law Of Attraction.
6. Find Or Learn A New Hobby
Is there a class you’ve always wanted to take, or a sport you just wish you could get to grips with? Why not try something new. A new sport, an art class, or any new found hobby will not only be the perfect distraction from what you are dealing with, but you’ll also get a chance to broaden your skills and feel good about yourself.
Take the following steps to finding something new to enjoy:
- Think about what you would like to do. What interests you? What makes you tick? What do you enjoy? All of these factors can help you determine a new found hobby.
- Think about what you are good at. What are you good at? How would those closest to you describe you? Perhaps you could put your key strengths into a hobby?
- Research what is available. Have a look and see what classes are available. Look online or at your local leisure centers. What is there that’s a suitable distance from where you live?
- Go and book it! Now that you’ve found what you wanted don’t deliberate any further. Go, book it, and have fun learning something new!
7. Look To The Future
It’s not so bad is it? Your life doesn’t have to end if something bad has happened no matter how big or small. Try to visualize where you see yourself in so many months or years’
time, what you want to be doing and to achieve.
This could be success in your job, starting a family or moving house. Things will get better. It’s about staying upbeat and thinking about what you can now accomplish with the rest of your life and pick yourself up from there.
Here are some things you should start planning now.
- Go and book that holiday. You know the one where you have dreamt of, where you are sitting on the beach sipping cocktails – do it, you deserve it!
- Think about moving house. Perhaps a brand new start might be something that can benefit you, and a new home, new start approach could be just what you need.
- Apply for that job you didn’t think you were good enough for. What have you got to lose? Atleast by applying and seeking a new start you stand as good a chance as anyone right?
- Make social plans. Keep busy. Plan a weekend away, a night out at the theater or even dinner with friends. Just keep yourself busy with fun things to look forward to.
Try all of these steps to help you move on from the tough times and look to a brighter future. By surrounding yourself with positive things, people and energy you can do this. And remember, what doesn’t kill you can only make you stronger!