Sex is a lot like anything else: the more you put into it, the better it will be! Listening and talking to each other is the foundation for a great sexual relationship, but you can make it even more pleasurable by just trying a few different things.
Take the following eight tips for better sex today into your bedroom for an experience both you and your partner won’t soon forget.
1. Try A Little Anticipation
Waiting can help you build up the intensity of an experience and improves your self-control, so try building a little anticipation now and again for more intense sex. Pick a time period, such as four days, during which you don’t have penetrative sex but instead kiss, cuddle, stroke each other, whatever works for you but with no orgasms.
At the end of your waiting period, allow yourselves an orgasm through whatever type of sexual activity you prefer. This anticipation game will up the intensity of your sexual experience and help both you and your partner really take in the sensations you give to each other.
2. Introduce Massage Time
Massage your partner and have him or her do the same to you. This can make your experience in the bedroom more pleasurable and relaxed, but you don’t have to limit massages to just prior to sex.
Massaging your partner and having them massage you will make you both more familiar with each other’s bodies, a big plus when it comes to sexual activity, and help reaffirm your intimate bonds.
Discuss your inclinations with your partner before massaging so you’re both on the same page as to whether it will lead to sex or is just for relaxation this time.
3. Heed Your Senses
It’s pretty common to just close your eyes and zone out a bit during sex, but you’re missing out on the arousing and invigorating sounds and sights. Listen to and observe your partner when you’re in the bedroom occasionally to soak in the atmosphere and add to the pleasure.
Introduce scent by using candles with your favorite smell, and use massage oils that are perfumed with something you both enjoy inhaling. For taste, you could mix a bit of food with sex, but try to go with something that is easy to eat and not too messy, like blueberries or small strawberries.
4. Add A Few Whispers
Some sexy hints here and there can get both of you right in the mood. Try whispering a few sweet nothings in your partner’s ear and sending some lightly steamy emails or texts.
Just make sure you send those texts or emails to the right person, and to be on the safe side, avoid using work email addresses or doing it on work cell phones. Your employer may have the right to check work emails or the content of work phones, so it’s not worth the risk.
5. Touch Yourself Too
A little masturbation on your own or with your partner can teach you more about your body and what you like. It’s also a great option if you’re in the mood but not quite feeling up to penetrative sex.
Talk about masturbation as an option with your partner. Some people are not comfortable with this topic, so you’ll need to have an open and honest discussion with your partner if you’re interested in introducing it into the shared bedroom experience.
6. Check Out Some Toys
Sex toys, such as vibrators, can add a little spice and fun to your sex life. Research the toys available with your partner to find ones you’re both comfortable trying.
Make sure you’re buying the items from a reputable seller, and always follow the cleaning instructions for the types you’ve decided to use.
7. Read Up On It
There are a lot of sexual advice content and guides available. Even if you’ve been having sex for a long time, you can always learn something new from a book.
Check out some sex books to learn more about the topic and find new things for you and your partner to try.
8. Be Ready To Share
You’ve got fantasies; so does your partner. But have you ever told him or her? And do they know theirs? Many people assume their partners won’t be interested in what they fantasize about, but you’ll never know for sure unless you say something.
Talk to your partner about your fantasies and exchange ideas. While neither of you should agree to things that cause personal discomfort, you just may be surprised at what you have in common.