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Spice Things Up In The Bedroom With These 3 Tips

Sex is about many things: the experience, the pleasure, the fun and even the foreplay, but positions play a bigger part than they are often credited for.

From levels of satisfaction to even physical comfort, positions have a huge role in your sex life. If you’re tired of the same three moves, including “old reliable,” or just want to add a bit of spice to your sex life, here’s some fun and easy ways to add new positions into your naked gymnastics.

Look Around

Sure, you can just let your imagination run wild, but if you need a bit of help in the creativity of new positions, take a look at what everyone else is doing. Adult movies often feature a variety of new moves, but if you’re not comfortable with that, you can get instructional materials designed for adults instead.

Get some sex education and guidebooks or videos that feature different positions and explain what they help do for you and your partner. Some guides even spell out what areas of the body the position puts pressure or strain on, which is a godsend if either of you have health considerations like a bad knee or lower back problems.

Review all the positions you’re interested in with your partner after looking at the materials. You’ll want something you’re both comfortable with and physically capable of doing as your partner’s input is necessary and valuable.

Speak to friends you feel comfortable discussing sex matters with about what they do. You don’t need the full details, but some of your friends may be open to explaining the positions they prefer and why and what didn’t work for them.

Don’t forget to talk to your partner about any position wish lists. He or she may have some positions in mind they wanted to try given the opportunity, or they may have ideas about what positions they’re not interested in to help you knock a few potential styles from the list.

Spice Up What You’ve Already Got

You’re probably already using standard positions, like the missionary, but sometimes an old dog can learn new tricks! Subtle variations to old positions can be the quickest and easiest way to add something new when you’re having sex. With a little tweaking, your old favorite can almost become brand new and exciting again.

Add a little variety to your tried and true positions by changing an element or two. With the missionary, for example, placing a pillow under the woman’s hips helps the man rub against the woman’s clitoris.

The woman can also change the penetration angle in this position by lifting her feet off the bend and pulling her knees inward toward her chest. Minor shifts in your or your partner’s body placement can really improve just about any position, as long as you’re willing to experiment a bit during sex to figure out what works best for the both of you.

Use Your Words And Communicate

Pin ItTell your partner if he or she needs to move a bit left, right, up, down or whatever the case may be to improve the position you’re in. You’ll both be happier and more satisfied as a result, so there’s really no reason not to speak up if you know you can take it to the next level and beyond!

Take note of what positions and variations worked for you and what didn’t to incorporate some new moves permanently into your bedroom activities. Don’t worry if some of the things you tried didn’t work out, as there’s always other new things you can try.

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Katherine Hurst
By Heather Redwood
Heather Redwood graduated from Penn State University with a Speech Communication degree, and specializes in communication therapy. She has logged over 15,000 hours in one-to-one sessions with men and women, helping them to cope with codependency issues and love and sex addiction. She also specializes in online dating and marriage counselling.

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