Think about the last time you were happy in a relationship. What was it about the situation that made you feel loved, secure and needed?
Maybe you no longer have a partner, or maybe your relationship has taken an unfortunate turn.
No matter your situation, it is possible to manifest healthy relationships, and the key to manifestation doesn’t begin with someone else, it begins with you!
Healthy relationships are just as important to your happiness as your own physical and mental well-being. It is easy to fall into the pattern of looking outside of you for the “right” person and to identify faults in others as being the downfall for past relationships.
Your judgments may be valid, but they will not serve you in a constructive way. In order to manifest the healthy relationship that you desire, begin by looking at some relationships you already have in your life.
Your Relationship With You
This is the most important relationship that you will ever have, because it dictates how you relate to other people.
If you were to describe your relationship with yourself as you would a romantic partnership, what would you say? To simplify, follow these steps:
1. What works?
Think about what works in your relationship with yourself. Maybe you excel at giving yourself praise when you deserve it, or maybe you know how to pull yourself together when you’re feeling down. Whatever you come up with, write it down.
2. What doesn’t work?
Perhaps you devalue certain aspects of your personality, while championing the ideals you see in others, or maybe you excuse yourself when you make poor decisions.
Determining what doesn’t work with you is the toughest, but you must be honest with yourself and don’t feel too bad; everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Write down your conclusions.
3. Are there similarities?
Compare what works and what doesn’t with the relationship you have with yourself and your current and past relationships. Are there any similarities between the struggles and triumphs of each? The comparison may not be readily apparent, but the more you think about it, the more you may begin to see patterns in how you relate to yourself and how that translates into relationships with others.
Your Platonic Relationships
Many people value marriages and romantic relationships as the epitome of fulfillment, but let’s take a moment to think about some influential platonic relationships.
Brothers and sisters, parents, cousins, friends, coworkers… pick one relationship, and then follow the same steps that you did with yourself. Notate your conclusions of what works, what doesn’t and the similarities during this exercise, as well.
For step three, you can compare your self-relationship to your platonic relationship, but it is most important to think about whether or not you relate to romantic partners in a similar way that you do with platonic friends.
Again, it may not be immediately obvious, but the more you understand your strengths and limitations, the easier it will be to manifest what you want.
Manifesting Through Meditation
This is your call to action. Once you have taken some time to think about what works and what doesn’t, you should have a clear idea of what you want to manifest.
Whatever you choose, try to be as specific as possible in your meditation.
Now you are ready to meditate! If you are new to meditative practice, don’t feel intimidated. Just follow the steps below:
1. Deep Breathing.
Start by sitting comfortably on the ground in a quiet space. Close your eyes and take a deep breath in to hold for five seconds. Slowly exhale, paying attention not to let your shoulders rise. Repeat 10 times.
2. Body Breaths.
As you become comfortable with your deep breathing, start to focus on areas of your body that need attention. Areas such as the jaw, throat, forehead, hands, feet and shoulders tend to hold tension the most. Find the spots that feel stressed and continue your breathing with your eyes closed. Visualize a healing white light during your inhales that gently loosens and soothes areas of tension. Release the tension through your exhale.
3. Clear Mind.
Now that your body is relaxed, your mind can follow suit. With your focus on your breath, take your mind to the gentle swelling of your stomach as you breathe in. Let your worrisome thoughts float away.
4. Mantra or Visual.
Draw your relaxed mind back to the present by focusing on your manifestation goal (mantra). Say your mantra each time you exhale, up to 20 times.
If your goal is better expressed visually, then simply visualize a simple scene that encompasses your relationship goal.
