Everyone wants what they want ASAP, right? It’s understandable. We’re all human. We think of something, we want it. It’s called instant gratification. But what if getting what you want doesn’t happen so much due to what you’re doing but rather, what you’re thinking?
When you want something, you start by doing something, anything, that you think will bring you closer to your desire. Makes perfect sense, except if what you want is outside your scope of understanding. That’s where you get stuck. And there’s a simple reason for it.
It’s because your energy isn’t lined up behind the very thing you want.
So, instead of simply allowing it, you worry, doubt or fear that what you want won’t happen. There are times when what you want comes to you instantly. (Think food or water). But I’m betting there are times it doesn’t – maybe with your weight – that you want something so bad yet you’re so worried, which may show up as confusion too, that it won’t happen and therefore never does.
It may sound counter intuitive, but it’s true. The reason why what you want doesn’t happen is because you’re resisting it in the form of negative emotions like fear, doubt and worry. You actually become afraid that you won’t get that which you desire, and as it turns out, you’re 100% right.
Don’t fret, because there is a quick fix to this dilemma. It’s to first be ok with where you are.
Think about it. You could never get from New York to Los Angeles without starting from square one. You couldn’t possibly eat if you didn’t acknowledge that you were hungry. You’d never be able to drive your car if you didn’t first reason that you weren’t driving it already.
All of which is acceptance of where you are. The only difference here is that you’re perfectly accepting of that fact versus those times when you’re not. And doesn’t it always seem to be with the things you want the most?
Rationally, the reason you want what you want is because you don’t have what you want, which could also be thought of in terms of lack. You still want something when you have it, but you also really want it when you don’t. So you pine away, thinking about it all day, and if you’re not simply allowing it, you’re doing the opposite, which is fearing it will never happen.
Why would you ever do that? One reason is doubt, or disbelief, which seems to overpower the mindset of millions of people, combined with a lack of ever experiencing it before. (Yep, there’s that word lack again.) It’s much easier to believe something if you’ve done it before, had it before, lived it before. But when you haven’t, and it seems like too much of a pipe dream, it can very easily stay a pipe dream unless you shift your energy behind your desire.
A change in your energy is what must happen first before your desire can come to you.
Now, I get it. You may be thinking that if you’re ok with where you are, it means you’re accepting what is. Wrong! In fact, when you’re ok with where you are, you begin to move toward what you want, because you are less resistant to it.
The best example of what I’m referring to is with weight loss. You so badly want to drop 15 or 20 pounds, so you start hitting the gym more often, and do the inevitable of going on a diet. Neither of which you really want to do, but all the gurus say to do, so you do it. You start working out twice a day, eating nothing but salad and fruit, yet a month later, nothing’s changed.
It’s because you don’t want to work out or starve yourself, yet you’re doing it anyways, when what you’re really doing is resisting it. Consequently, you’ve thrown your energy into the very things you don’t want to do to get what it is you want.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you’ve got it all backward.
To lose weight, it’s simple. First, accept that you’re overweight, or not where you want to be. Then, find things you love to do that will help you achieve your desired weight loss goal, such as dancing around your living room to three or four songs a day, or drinking lemon water every morning, or just forgetting about it altogether by distracting yourself with doing work you love to do.
Hint: Believe it or not, that last one really works!
You will be amazed at how easily weight falls off when you do, or how quickly whatever goal you’re trying to achieve happens. It will seem like magic, but it’s not. Rather, it’s a small tweak in how you feel that will literally change everything.