In Part One, in a few steps, I discussed why passion and purpose are important to well-being. The last step included a way for you to find your passion. I ended Part One with this message: In Part Two you will learn a potent force that holds you back.
Hmmm…What could that be? What do you think is the most powerful force that can either allow you to move forward—or to hold back?
Hint: Well, you weren’t hatched! If you guessed something like “my family, my upbringing, my caregivers (or for some, their caretakers),” then you are right!
Your childhood environment and the rules you learned about life, women, men, risk, optimism, individuality, love, trust and many more things shape how you deal with setbacks, goals, underachieving and overachieving, and most importantly, loyalty and abandonment.
What? What do loyalty and abandonment have to do with passion and purpose? Read these two brief true stories;
Rita always wanted to go to college. Her mother and three brothers all worked in the family plumbing business, but she didn’t want to. She wanted to go to art school. Her father said to “stop dreaming.” Her mother said, “There are no art schools here.
Springville City is our home and where we live. Rita stayed home and dawdled in crafts the rest of her life—and was unhappy.
Alex was good with his hands. He could build just about anything. Most of all he loved designing buildings. All the men—on both sides of the family—were physicians. So, it was expected that Alex would also go to medical school. But, one day, when he was in advanced chemistry class in college, he realized how much he hated it. His girlfriend said to him: “Life is too short to do what you hate. Why don’t you change your major?”
The idea panicked him, but he kept hearing his girlfriend’s words. A month later, he told his parents he was changing his major to engineering. He shook the whole time he spoke to them. They yelled and screamed, threatened not to pay for college, but they eventually supported his dream.
In those two stories, Rita could not undergo the panic that Alex braved. She couldn’t risk upsetting her family and appearing ungrateful, unloving—and disloyal.
Alex also feared similar things, but, with the help of a trusted girlfriend, he knew he had to risk being anxious—and going against his family.
So, now you are ready to face that potent family force that can hold you back.
Your Oath For Following Through On Following Your Passion And Purpose
You can do it! Remember: It truly is your life!