Getting married is fun and exciting, but staying in a committed marriage can be hard to do. It takes a lot of work to ensure that your relationship stands the test of time. While there is certainly counseling for this reason, sometimes all it takes is reminding yourself what a great spouse you have, even when life takes over and you feel like you’re just riding it out.
If you’re feeling like your marriage needs work, consider these traits of a great husband. As you read through them, chances are you’ll rediscover the love you have always had for your husband and remember why you fell in love with him in the first place.
Communication
Even on days when you don’t see each other much, a good husband will stay in touch. That might mean sending you texts from the office or giving you a call when he gets a break. Not only that, but he also listens to you and allows your conversations to be driven by you some of the time.
It doesn’t require being together all day every day to have great communication. If your husband truly listens to you and is willing to tell you all about his day and the things he’s dealing with, you can bet he’s probably the man you should be with.
You Laugh When You’re Together
A husband who makes you laugh is one you want to hold on to. When the two of you spend time laughing together, it builds your bond and brings you closer together. Think about it this way: When a man can make you smile, it makes him feel good. He wants you to be happy.
So if your husband tries to make you laugh and injects a good dose of silliness into your lives, you know he’s a keeper. So next time the two of you are cracking up with each other, remember that these little things are what make your relationship such a good one.
He Apologizes And Asks Forgiveness
No man is perfect and your husband is bound to mess up now and then. While his mistakes probably make you mad and may even leave you questioning your partnership, if he comes to you and tells you he’s sorry and asks you to forgive him, he’s a good husband.
It’s hard to admit to a mistake, but if your husband is willing to admit to it and even apologizes for what he did, you can hold on to him. The problem would be if he was messing up and refusing to take responsibility or making his mistakes seem like your fault. But relationship experts agree that a willingness to admit wrongdoing is a trait of a great husband.
He’s Loyal And Faithful
Faithfulness is one of the cornerstones of a healthy and long-lasting marriage. If your husband has pledged to you that he will stay faithful and then he does just that, he’s a good husband. At the same time, he should also be loyal.
That means he doesn’t talk about you behind your back or badmouth you to friends and family. It also means he takes your side and sticks up for you when things happen. A man who is truly committed to you and your marriage is one who has your back and doesn’t stray. If that describes your spouse, he’s a good one.
He Takes Care Of You
You might not need a man to live a good life, but when you’re married, you want your husband to take care of you. That includes both the big and small things. Clearly, he will protect you if you ever feel threatened, he will have a job and help contribute to your bank account and he will help you out when you need him.
Whether it’s to bring you soup when you have a cold or to change your flat tire, a good husband will take care of you and will be there for you when you need him. This does not mean your husband will wait on you hand and foot and do your bidding all day long. He’s your partner and not your slave, so don’t place this expectation on him or you’ll both be disappointed in your partnership.
He Talks About The Future
A husband who foresees his future with you in it is a good one. When you talk about your lives in years down the road, a good husband will include you in his hopes and dreams.
Whether you discuss your vacations, your future home, kids, pets or anything else, being sure to include you in what he wants and needs indicates that you have a husband who is committed to you and your marriage. He might drive you crazy, but if he can’t see his life without you in it, you can assume he’s the husband you want and need.
Let’s You Pursue Your Hobbies
Let’s face it. Your hobbies and your husband’s hobbies probably aren’t all the same. True, you do enjoy some of the same things or you wouldn’t have been attracted to each other in the first place, but you each have your own interests at the same time.
A good husband will allow you to pursue your passions without making you feel guilty or bad about wanting some time to yourself. A controlling husband is never good for a healthy relationship, so if your husband is cool with you doing the things you love and understands that they are important to you and part of who you are, he’s a great catch.
Is A Good Father
If the two of you have children together, a good husband will also be a good dad. That means he is happy to spend time with the kids and helps you in the day to day care of raising them. He isn’t afraid to change diapers, get down on the floor and play or instill healthy morals and values in your children.
Many women say that seeing their husband turn into a great father makes them fall in love with them all over again. When your husband becomes that father, you can bet he’s a man you want to hold on to.
Clearly, this isn’t an exhaustive list, but it outlines the important basics of what makes a man a good husband. It’s also important to know that your husband probably won’t be all of these things all of the time, but if he is most of them, most of the time, he makes a pretty good husband!
