The last 10+ years of my professional life I spent working in the world of Digital. And something tells me that soon enough, none of us will be able to recall life before the digital world. The Internet took us by storm without asking permission.
What does this mean, you ask? Perhaps, for those gazillions who come next, of course, this will not mean anything outstandingly obvious.
Taken as a whole picture, think of online tech, it will have become a sort of foundational myth – a tale that most of the people are hardly conscious of, something already habitual, natural and, for that matter, unnoticed.
Now think of previous generations that were enchanted by television until their TV sets were left idle yet always on – muttering something endlessly and as comforting as the radios before them; and so perhaps future generations will be so entangled and immersed in the world of Digital that questions about its fundamental meaning will have vanished from awareness.
And yet something groundbreaking will be missing from their lives.
Something tremendous indeed – an unshakable mindset that some of their ancestors perhaps took for granted – and yet this will be hardly noticed as it disappears slowly yet decisively.
The age of being unplugged, the age of absence of the entire online world that is.
Those, plenty of us still, who lived with and without hyper connectivity of online world have the rarest opportunity!
All of us, you and I, we are still able to recognize the mild or drastic difference between pre and post digital world.
How many of you idly reaching for your phones at the train station?
Or have you noted how in mid conversation a friend deep dives into the total recall of Google?
My argument is that amid all the messy changes in this ever changing world that we experience every day, one of the most fascinating is the end of solitude and being left alone, unplugged.
The silence of creative daydreaming is now filled with hassle and bustle and continuous noise in our lives; the burning thirst for solitudes are now perpetually extinguished.
I don’t believe there’s genuine “free time” when you are carrying a smartphone in your hand.
The chance to be left alone with your thoughts became one of the rarest commodities in today’s world.
Does it feel good when your first impulse is to check for the updates before even saying “good morning” to the person next to you in bed? Welcome to the attention disrupted world.
I’m amongst those people called ‘digital tourists’ – not “digital natives” to be precise, but those still plenty of us, who still remember what the world was like before digital took us all by storm.
I remember what it’s like to go hiking and to climb in the mountains not worrying about getting a perfect wifi connection or people thinking I went missing or died just because I didn’t instantly reply… or responded in a couple of days!
I remember what it’s like to go for a walk without a device in my hand, to be left alone with my thoughts; left entirely, completely alone with my thoughts, to catch my breath – and just let myself be…
These days, simple things like that are getting trickier to experience.
However, we do have a rare historical moment, a unique opportunity to experience the world in between two modes of being.
Now please raise hands those of you who have lived both with and without the vastness of hyper connectivity the Digital world provides, how many of you could still notice the difference between before and after the digital storm?
Even though it feels like there’s no escape from Digital and being continuously connected and knowing the world isn’t going to roll backward, there’s still this moment where we get to catch ourselves saying: Wait… hang on a second.
We are all connected, but how many of us get to establish and experience real human connection these days?
I get intensively annoyed when all of my five inboxes are being bombarded by the endless stream of utter nonsense! Cold emailing that is. Trust me, am all about making meaningful connections, but when my attention is stolen from that, I go crazy and then… well, sad.
I remember a shameful moment in my professional career not that long ago when I had hundreds of tabs open on my screen and then… a colleague approached me to ask a question, then the other one came along, and then the other one popped in too. A simple thing like that felt overwhelming.
I couldn’t focus on a task at hand, nor could I help anyone, no matter how desperately I wanted to.
Don’t get me wrong; I am always trying to be as helpful as I can be. At that moment, with hundreds of things to do, and a few hundreds of tabs being persistently open, and notifications and colleagues all seeking my attention and help, I felt utterly depleted from my energy, low on batteries.
Desperately, I ran for a yoga retreat without saying a word to anyone outside of my professional circle.
I went and did Vipassana, something I did a few years ago for the first time and found this as one of the most challenging and most rewarding things to do.
What I got in return were the tools for grounding yourself in this ever buzzing world, no matter distractions, staying present.
The tools that helped to regain control:
Just like I did, get yourself in the habit of taking calming mini-breaks throughout the busy buzzing day.
Breathe in some fresh air. Stretch more. Take a short walk around the office, or go outside.
These interludes will reduce the excessive stimulation of going non-stop.
It will help you to stay grounded at the moment, to find peace and distress.
To dial down your emotional overload, act fast and meditate for a few minutes.
This centers your energy, so you don’t take it on from those surrounding you at the fleeting moment.
Try to safeguard your sensitivities. If someone asks way too much of you, politely tell them “no.” It’s not necessary to explain why.
As the saying goes, “No is a complete sentence.”
If your comfort level is two hours max for socializing – even if you love being surrounded by amazing people – take your car or have an alternate transportation plan, so you’re not stuck.
If crowds are way over the top and you feel overwhelmed, eat a high-protein meal beforehand (this helps to ground you) and sit in the far corner of, say, a theater or party, not dead center.
If you overeat to numb negative emotions, practice the guerilla meditation mentioned, before you’re lured to the refrigerator, a potential vortex of endless temptation.
As an emergency measure, keep a cushion next to the fridge so you can be poised to meditate instead of binge eating.
Think about carving out private space at home.
Then you won’t be stricken by the feeling of too much togetherness when all you need is to be left alone with your thoughts and recharge.
Learn to distinguish the silence while you are surrounded by the machines steady and persistent buzz.
Further Reading: What Are Empaths? 14 Empath Traits And Scientific Theories
Stay Absent When You Want And Keep Making Meaningful Connections When You WantThe other day I went for a ‘walk and talk’ with a friend, and we talked a lot about ’staying connected’ in a human way, despite the digital, in a real, tangible world in the 21st century we all live in.
How it’s important more than ever to put down all devices aside and be present at the moment, be there for each other while we still can.
Listening attentively without trying to interrupt, being present.
There’s a trick I’ve learned from a friend of mine. He told me that whenever he feels the urge to add his 5 cents to a conversation, he takes a sip of water or any other beverage, and then, well, listens…
Tech is neither good or bad, nor is it neutral.
I am never anti-tech (because I know of the wonders it brings), yet I am pro-people and establishing meaningful connections here and now, in real time, while I still can.
