Being in a relationship is awesome. You have someone there who is a constant support, someone to run to when things are bad, someone to pick you up when you’re down.
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But if all relationships went so smoothly no one would ever be single. It’s easy to remember the good in a relationship once you’re single but what about all the bad? How about all the times when you just wanted out?
Was it cool to be fighting every night and going to work exhausted the whole day? Was it alright to let someone chip away at your self-esteem day after day?
No, it wasn’t, it never is.
When you find yourself newly single after being in a long relationship, expect yourself to feel lost for a while – but running to the next person that makes a move on you is the worst thing you can do to yourself.
Rebounding may seem like a good thing at the time, however, in the long-run, it does nothing for personal development.
We’re all under immense pressure by society to get hitched, being alone often makes you the butt of jokes amongst friends.
What we don’t realize is that this time we have to ourselves is something that is essential for us.
Being by yourself can reveal so much about who you are as a person and how you need to grow to be an improved version of yourself.
Here are a few tips on embracing the single life and emerging as a stronger, independent individual who knows their self-worth.
1) Making Your Own Decisions
One of the hardest parts of a relationship is making sacrifices for your significant other.
While it may be a beautiful thing, being able to be your own person and do what you want is pretty damn great.
Go where you want, be with who you want to be with; you’ll love being the only soul directing your life.
Cherish this period of not being answerable to anyone else other than yourself.
2) Get To Know Yourself
We often let our relationship define us. Use your single time to get to know who you are.
Try traveling by yourself to a new place. Traveling on your own has a way of revealing aspects of your personality even you were not aware of.
You’ll learn that you are much stronger than you think as you try to navigate your way through a strange land.
It will open up your mind to a new culture and its people.
It will also help you make new memories for yourself.
3) Change Yourself For The Better
Use your alone time to concentrate on yourself.
Exercising and getting into shape will make you feel better physically and mentally.
Break-ups can leave you in a tough spot and take a toll on your health.
Don’t let the after-effects of your relationship leave you feeling worn out, instead use it as a chance to better yourself.
Exercise regularly and make simple changes in your life that will help you in the long-run.
4) Become Self-Sufficient
Learning to be self-sufficient will set you up for life.
Get comfortable with cooking, cleaning and other tasks around the house.
You’ll notice that you’re saving so much more money when you get into the habit of cooking your own food.
Of course, cooking at home is also a healthier option than ordering takeout constantly.
You have more control over the ingredients when you are preparing meals at home, you can make sure that you are only using healthy ingredients.
The more you do around the house, you’ll be less reliant on others and being alone won’t be so frustrating.
Helping others out has a way of making you feel better so take up any chances you have to volunteer in the community.
Become part of meaningful projects that make a difference.
The feeling of self-achievement after you meet your goals is sure to give your self-esteem a boost.
Volunteering is a great way to meet new people and to get to know your community.
Plus, volunteering at the right places can even give your career a boost.
Get yourself a hobby that brings you joy – if you find a hobby that is exhilarating enough, you’ll experience eustress (the positive type of stress). A good hobby should leave you feeling reenergized and with a positive outlook towards life.
In addition, hobbies have a physical impact on you too.
Research reveals that partaking in activities that you enjoy can lower your blood pressure, lower body mass index and reduce levels of cortisol in the body.
7) Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone
You can’t grow by remaining within your comfort zone, to develop as a person you need to take risks and force yourself outside your comfort zone.
Do you have a fear of heights? It’s time to jump out of a plane.
If you have stage fright then get yourself to join a performance art class – it will give you the confidence to put yourself out there.