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3 Ways To Kick Start Your Sex Life

Kids in bed, check.
Groceries put away, check. Laundry in, check. Sex?
“I’ll pass, thanks, seeing as I can barely stay awake right now.”

If that scenario sounds familiar to you, you’re certainly not alone. With more and more things to do and our lives getting busier by the second, it’s easy to let sex fall to wayside in favor of things like sleep, chores or work.

But getting back into the mood and out of your sex rut is surprisingly simple if you use the tips below, and both and your partner will benefit from the renewed spark in your sex life!

1. Take A Romance Break

Even with a million things to do when you get home each day, you can set the stage for loving later by just doing little things to send some love signals your partner’s way and get yourself into that mindset. Good sex takes a bit of planning and often starts before you enter your bedroom.

Interrupt your partner while he or she is making dinner or folding laundry for just a quick kiss or caress. The chores still get done, but now you’ve laid some groundwork and reminded the both of you about what you could be doing later.

Stage the bedroom as well, such as setting up music or getting some candles into position. It’ll only take a few minutes but can give the mood a big energy boost later, even if you’re both feeling a bit tired.

2. Add A Little Variety

Variety is the spice of life, so sprinkle some pepper on your sex life to spark some excitement and renew your commitment to come back for more. You don’t have to become bedroom gymnasts or do something you or your partner isn’t comfortable with to add some spice to your love life. Simple yet different, when it comes to sex, can be just as thrilling as complex and complicated.

Step outside of your normal sex routine to shake things up. If you normally have sex in the evening, for example, try doing it in the morning, or when both of you have unexpected private time during the day.

Try a new location, like the kitchen or living room, if sex usually happens in the bathroom. Just a change in time or scenery adds that sense of newness and thrill because it’s different from your usual sex life routine. Experiment with new positions, too, but make sure you’re both physically and mentally comfortable with whatever you’re attempting to reap the full benefits.

3. Love Yourself And Your Partner

That may sound like a no-brainer, but it is surprising how often men and women drag their body insecurities into the bedroom without even realizing it and that can dampen the mood. A college study, as cited by Brown University, found that both male and female students worried about their body image in large numbers.

Pin ItFocus on the parts of your body you favor when you’re getting yourself in the mood for sex, as opposed to the ones about which you’re self-conscious. Keep your attention on the areas of your partner’s body you enjoy the most if you find yourself too fixated on your body image. This will also make your partner feel good and it keeps your attention focused on the activities at hand.

Getting yourself in the mood adds to the overall sex experience, and your partner will feel the benefits too! By taking just a little bit of time, you can elevate the experience to the next level for the both of you.

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Katherine Hurst
By Heather Redwood
Heather Redwood graduated from Penn State University with a Speech Communication degree, and specializes in communication therapy. She has logged over 15,000 hours in one-to-one sessions with men and women, helping them to cope with codependency issues and love and sex addiction. She also specializes in online dating and marriage counselling.

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