“We only suffer as much as our thoughts allow us to.”
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This quote came to me one day and as I posted it on Instagram, the likes came pouring in. Why? Because we all ‘know’ our thoughts bring us down, but many of us cannot stop with the negative thinking no matter how hard we try.
I call it ruminating or spinning, the thinking game where we think of something bad and then think of 100’s of ways that it’s going to make life hard for us, we won’t get what we need or what we want and we are doomed.
Then we are in a dark pit of struggle that we can’t seem to get out of, yet these were only thoughts we created in our minds!
I have some good news.
I have created 3 steps to help you release your negative thought cycle:
Step 1. Awareness
Once the negative thought comes to mind and you start to entertain it and obsess on it, stop yourself and see what you are doing.
Just this awareness of this unconscious action will bring it to light and then give you the choice to not go down that negative road.
Step 2. Detachment
Step outside of this thought immediately. Do not connect with it, do not own it as the truth.
Most of our thoughts are made up fears that never come true so we need to detach from it as soon as possible.
We don’t have to believe everything we think. Watch the negativity go by and have no emotional reaction.
Step 3. Release
Once you have the awareness of your pattern and detached from the negative thought cycle, you are now ready to LET IT GO!
There is no healthy reason why we should hang on and ruminate over the negativity in our brain.
Imagine placing the thoughts in a big red balloon and then letting go of the string and watch it fly away and then eventually out of sight.
This process has alleviated so much needless suffering for me and I hope that it will do the same for you.
Worrying only robs us of our beautiful present moment and once we know how to do this, we will enjoy more and struggle less.