Looking for love is one of the things we all do, whether we’re trying to find the partner of our dreams or wondering if our current relationship is ready for the next level.
Like many other things in life, however, we have to be ready for love in order to experience it. Real love is a genuine commitment to another person and before you can make that leap and experience that emotion to the fullest, you have to be in the right place in your life and in your mind.
It can be a little easier to find love once you’re prepared for it, so here are a few signs that you’re primed for a successful relationship and what you can do if you’re not there just yet.
Carrying baggage from a past relationship can really have an effect on a new one and not necessarily in a good way. While mistakes and problems from your past can be a good thing because you can learn from them, you have to be ready to let it go when it comes to your new partner, as he or she is not the same person you dated before.
Analyze yourself in an open and honest manner. Write down the lingering negative emotions and things from your past relationship you’re still not over, as just the act of expressing them can help you move forward. Take time to rediscover yourself. It’s good for you as a person and makes you more open to new people and experiences.
Make a list of things that you’ve wanted to try but never have done and go through that list one experience at a time. Not only will you be more fulfilled and have some fun, you just might meet the right person for you along the way!
You Know What You Want
Finding a new love or developing a current relationship is a bit like buying a new car. Most car buyers conduct research, decide what they want and what they don’t want and stay away from models with which they’ve had bad experiences. Relationships work the same way, as you should know what you can live with and what you can’t in a partner, with past relationship experiences and mistakes acting as a valuable tool.
Make a list of qualities you love, like, and can’t tolerate in a partner. Decide what your deal-breakers are, such as children. If you want children and your potential partner doesn’t, there’s no potential compromise to be made and this type of scenario will eventually stall your relationship.
Use this information to make dating choices that work right for you. You can save time, frustration and disappointment on the dating scene by knowing what you want and you’ll be more prepared to commit to the right person when he or she comes along.
You’re Staying Positive
Being positive in life is a good thing in general; if you stay upbeat, that positive energy will just become second nature to you. Being positive while you’re single or in the early stages of a relationship is a big plus in your favor, as your dates or new partner will respond in return and you’ll just feel better overall.
Stay positive by making a commitment to your own happiness. Do what you love and enjoy without worrying about being single, what other people are doing, or where your new relationship will go. Love will come to you, so live your life from the glass is half-full perspective to make the most of your time.