There’s no better feeling than being in love, but there is also no worse feeling than being in love with someone and wondering if that person is also in love with you. Relationships are hard work, and sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands.
Maybe the man you want to be with really does love you, but has a hard time showing it. If you’re ready to progress to the next stage of your relationship, there are some signs you can look for to help you decide if a man might be in love with you and if approaching him to take things to the next level is a good idea. Here are some signs that you might have found the love of your life.
1. He Changes His Plans
If a man changes his plans to be with you, you can assume he has strong feelings for you. Men like to spend time with their male friends doing what men do when they are together. But if you suggest dinner out, a movie or some other activity and he drops his plans to make the date, he might really be in love with you. If you have such a hold over a man that he will drop everything to be with you, there are definitely feelings there. If he’s only in it for a fling, he’s more likely to decline your invitation. The bottom line is that if he is in love with you, he’ll want to be with you, no matter what you’re doing together.
2. He’ll Do Things He Doesn’t Love
Most men hate shopping, but if he agrees to hit the mall with you, he cares about you a great deal. Maybe he gases up your car, feeds your cat or agrees to Mexican food when he’d rather have Italian. This is a small gesture, but it goes a long way toward proving that he’s in love with you. If a man is willing to do something he hates just because it lets him be around you, you have probably found someone who feels good about a relationship with you.
3. Listening Is A Good Indicator Of Love
Men are by nature problem solvers, so most of them have a hard time not jumping in and fixing things for you. While that’s certainly great, a man who is in love with you will take the time to really sit down and listen to what you’re saying instead of trying to be the hero. Most women feel like they just want to be heard and sometimes just want to gripe or vent about something. When a man listens to you, hold on to him.
4. He Wants Your Opinion
Just like he will listen to you, a man who really loves you will ask for and truly wants your opinion. Whether he’s considering a career change, buying a condo or getting a dog, if he asks what you think and really values and weighs what you have to say, you can bet there are some feelings there. If a man wants to know what you think about something, he sees you as his future.
5. You Feel Important
When you’re casually dating someone, you might feel like you don’t matter all that much. When a man’s feelings develop into loving you, he’ll make you feel like you matter to him. That might be doing what he says he will, when he says he’ll do it. It might be calling or texting during the day just to see how you’re doing. It might simply be doing something to make your life easier, like changing a light bulb or cooking dinner.
6. He Talks About The Future
If you have a place in a man’s future, he will talk about it. If he’s in love with you, he will discuss taking a vacation in the future, living together or making a big purchase together. He might also say off-handed things about when you’re married or when you have kids. If these things pop up in conversation, he is probably in love with you.
7. You Get To Meet His Friends And Family
When a man falls in love with you, he will probably want to show you off. That means he’ll want to take you along when he goes to social gatherings. If a man is happy to have you spend time around his friends, family and co-workers, you can be sure that he loves you and wants you to have a place in his life. The same is true if he wants to hang out with your friends and family.
8. He Takes Care Of You
Maybe you’re down with the ‘flu or you got a flat tire on your way to work. If he’s there taking care of you, he loves you. Not all men are willing to care for someone they aren’t serious about, so if you have a place in his life and he wants you there, he will show you by making chicken noodle soup or giving you a ride to the tire store for a replacement. When you know that calling your man is an easy way to get the compassion and care you need and want, you can assume that there is love there from both sides of the relationship.
9. He Makes An Effort
A man who isn’t really in it for the long haul probably won’t put that much work into your relationship. On the other hand, if he is in love with you, he will make sure you know it by doing things to make you feel loved. This can be the classic flowers and chocolates, but it might also be remembering how you take your coffee, what your favorite magazine is or that you want to see a certain movie. When a man makes a point to know more about you and what you love and want from life, he is definitely feeling love toward you.
10. He Wants To Know More About You
When a man starts asking about your childhood, what your favorite things are and what you want to do, he has feelings for you. Men like to talk about themselves, so when the subject turns to you, you can bet he wants to know everything about you. This goes hand in hand with really listening to what you have to say too.
Experts also say that a man shows love by doing the little things, such as mirroring your body language when you engage with each other. He might also want to hold your hand or put his arm around you when you are watching television. If he always breaks out in a big smile when he sees you, that’s another indication of love. Of course, when a man tells you he loves you, in combination with all of these other things, you are definitely in a relationship where love is flowing in both directions.