How To Engage People To Want To Listen To You

Regardless of the topic of conversation, you probably are always searching for ways to make people listen to you. After all, if you are able to engage well with others, that increases the chance that people will not only remember what you say, but perhaps even come away from the conversation feeling that it’s the most entertaining exchange they’ve had in a while.

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It’s not always easy to make your words resonate, but there are several things you can do to improve the chance that you’ll be able to keep people interested, whether you’re chatting with one person or addressing an entire auditorium.

Observe Body Language

Many particularly engaging speakers don’t have special knowledge that’s not available to you or other members of the general population. Rather, they have taken time to sharpen their observational abilities and become especially aware of body language.

You can do the same by trying your best to pick up on things like posture, eye contact, and whether the person to whom you’re speaking seems to be responding to what you say or looks distracted.

With practice, you can tailor your conversations by working from body language feedback. Teachers regularly do this by surveying a classroom to see if students look attentive or confused. Don’t overlook more subtle cues, such as changes in facial expression.

They are the ones that can immediately indicate whether your points have hit home or are going over the other person’s head because you’re not explaining yourself very well.

Play On Emotions

Using the right words can have very powerful results. However, it’s also important not to overlook the emotional aspect of your words. For help, try to imagine how the words you’re saying might impact the other person.

If the things you are conveying seem to lack authenticity, consider adjusting your approach so it is more appealing to human nature. Carefully try to spice up your conversation with real-world examples of things that touch the heart and make people think.

If you’re feeling bold, experiment with adding details that relate to your personal life. They can demonstrate that you truly understand the topic you’re covering and encourage people to tune into whatever you say.

Be A Good Listener

Sometimes, being engaging is all about listening to what the other person has to say and responding accordingly. If you’re feeling nervous, you may be tempted to try to fill in all the silent gaps within the conversation.

Doing that may not only dilute your message, but it could cause you to miss out on feedback from the other person that you might ultimately use to make the conversation go over better with others.

Practicing your listening skills is also essential because it shows the other person that you are not interested in trying to dominate the conversation and are trying to keep dialogue open. Furthermore, it gives you the opportunity to gauge whether or not your words are being understood correctly and make adjustments if necessary.

Before beginning a conversation with someone, practice parts of it at home and try to be especially mindful of things like how often you pause between sentences, as well as the general tone and speed of your words.

These characteristics of conversations can sometimes unintentionally discourage people from speaking up during the dialogue and might cause them to become bored.

Ask For Engagement In Return

This tip is difficult to do if you are addressing a large group, but when possible, it’s a good idea to directly ask people what they think about the things you’ve had to say. For example, you might say something like, “How do you think I should respond, given the situation?” or even something like, “How does that make you feel?”

Say Things That Make People Feel Valuable

One essential part of engaging with others involves letting those people know that you are willingly giving up your time to converse with them. That’s why it’s so important to not make it seem like Pin Ityour conversations are scripted, even if you have practiced parts of them at home.

Furthermore, when people offer tips for you, such as after you try the above, take a moment to accept them gratefully. Additionally, use a language and tone that clearly demonstrates you consider it a privilege to be having a conversation with the other person or people.

Now that you’ve learned some tips on how to be a more engaging conversationalist, try to get in the habit of practicing them every day. The more you do it, the more likely people will find you fascinating and worthy of their attention.

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