Fostering a relationship is hard work and requires constant diligence from both parties to ensure that it stays healthy and loving. That requires doing certain things and avoiding doing other things.
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This ensures that you both stay on the same page and foster the feelings of love and commitment that you had when you decided to pursue a partnership with each other. There are plenty of relationship experts out there who will help you stay committed and remain loving toward each other.
Through tons of research and many, many studies, they have found out that there are certain actions that everyone should be doing when they are in a relationship.
Here they are. Once you know what they are, you can make habit changes that allow you to incorporate them into your routine and ensure that your relationship lasts forever.
1. Forget About Who Is Gone
You’re in this relationship now, so dwelling on the past isn’t serving either one of you well. Use past relationships to help you learn from mistakes and to keep your current one going for a lifetime. Stop thinking about the past, and you’ll be able to move forward.
2. Get Away From Negativity
Negative people can destroy all the good parts of your life, including a healthy relationship. You have to cut those people out of your life and learn to focus on what’s important to you and not what the world is telling you to do. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.
3. Be Accepting
No one is perfect and no one is going to be perfect, so it’s important to let go of that ideal and accept people for who they are. Once you do that, you can build some great relationships, both romantic and platonic.
4. Encourage Others
If you want a truly great relationship, you have to be encouraging and be willing to cheer the other person on, no matter what their endeavor happens to be. That lets them know you are there for them.
5. Be Yourself
One of the worst things you can do in a relationship is let someone think you are not who you really are. Be who you are and the people you are meant to be with will be there. Be who you’re not, and you’ll just suffer from broken partnerships.
6. Give And Receive
In a relationship, you have to give what you want to get back. Then, you have to graciously accept it from your partner. This is true for how you treat each other, how you speak to one another and how you feel about each other.
7. Stay In Touch
Whether this is with your partner during the workday or with a friend who lives far away, staying in touch is vital to keeping a relationship healthy and thriving. Send texts, call each other and email back and forth to stay up to date and in touch with what’s going on in each other’s lives.
8. Keep Promises
Broken promises have damaged or destroyed multitudes of relationships. If you promise your partner something, you must follow through, or trust is broken. Think before you promise to be sure you are saying something you can actually make happen.
9. Ignore Hurtful Things
No matter what outsiders say about you, your partner, or your relationship, it’s important to ignore them. No one knows what your partnership is like so they don’t have the right to comment or criticize. Let that stuff roll off your back and you’ll be better for it.
10. Forget Pettiness
Instead of being petty, try not to let little arguments ruin your relationship. Every situation doesn’t need a snarky comment. Instead, show grace and your relationship will thrive, and you’ll likely get it back from your partner at the same time.
11. Be Good To Yourself
You can’t be good to someone else if you aren’t taking care of yourself. Take time to do the things you enjoy so that you can come back to your partner feeling happy and refreshed so that you are good to each other. Allow your partner the same courtesy.
12. Say What You Mean
It’s easy to say hurtful and mean things in the heat of the moment, but a good relationship is one where you are free to voice concerns, opinions and feelings without judgment. Just be sure to do so in a kind way instead of a mean and hurtful way.
13. Be Loyal
No matter what, when you’re in a partnership with someone, you have to remain loyal to each other. That means keeping personal stuff private between the two of you, being on each other’s side and standing up for each other when it becomes necessary to do so.
14. Do Little Things
The little things are what prove your love to each other. Make sure you do them often so that your partner knows how you feel. This might be starting the coffee if you’re up first or leaving each other love notes.
15. Real Friends, Not Fake
You will have many relationships in your life, but it’s important to recognize the ones that mean the most and that are going to last your lifetime. It’s fine to treat others kindly, but focus on the relationships that mean the most to you and you’ll be good to go.
16. Forgive
You should always forgive each other, no matter what. Everyone messes up and you will too, so mutual forgiveness is important.
17. Be Respectful
Nothing kills a relationship faster than lack of mutual respect. Foster that for each other and you’ll have a relationship worth preserving forever.
18. Embrace Newness
If a relationship doesn’t work out, don’t be afraid to get out there and try again. Be open to meeting new people and be willing to give each new person a chance. That’s how you’ll find the person that is meant for you.
19. Making Decisions
Even in a relationship, you don’t have the right to tell each other what to do. It’s fine to offer your opinion or advice, but you must also recognize that you can’t make your partner’s decisions for them. They have to do that on their own.
20. Listen
Being a good listener will make all of your relationships so much better and stronger. Sometimes you just have to listen, not offer advice or try to fix a problem. Just let the other person know that you are there and that’s good enough.
Relationships aren’t easy, but taking the time to do these things in each of yours ensures that you have healthy partnerships that you can count on with friends, family and a significant other. If you find that you aren’t doing these things or can’t do them, take some time to reflect on why not and work to solve whatever obstacles are getting in your way.
A strong support system and good relationships improve quality of life, so this is something you never want to take lightly. You’ll be glad you put in the time and effort.
